Jun 5, 2023
It's easy to fall into the trap of thinking we know everything. What if we took a step back and listened more? Not only to other people, but also to ourselves and to the situation? By opening ourselves up to different perspectives and experiences, we start on a journey of exploration and discovery, even in challenging conversations at work.
In this episode of the listening SUPERPOWER podcast, author of the
book, Thrive in Turbulent Times, Jo Boniszewski shares how to
listen so we can bring calm and clear thinking amidst the storm.
After 15 years of commercial management roles, Jo became an
executive leadership coach and facilitator and has been working
many years with leaders and organizations to help them lead with
more ease and impact.
Since 2013, Jo has worked closely with Alan Seale, Founder and
Director at the Center for Transformational Presence. She is a
programme leader for the Transformational Presence signature
programmes. In 2021 Jo launched her online Thrive self-leadership
year programme. The programme, based on her book, focusses on
equipping participants to build their capacities for thriving in
these turbulent times. British-born Jo lives in The Netherlands
with her husband René and three children, Alex (2003), Sophie
(2005) and Katie (2009).
Jo shares amazing stories and very practical tips on how to manage
our monkey mind and how to become aware of our hidden assumptions,
which are key to being able to listen with impact. She helps us
understand our human nature and embrace our “weaknesses” without
judgment, so that we can extend the same understanding and
compassion to others.
Enjoy listening to our journey of exploration and discovery to
foster deeper connections and more meaningful relationships at work
and at home.
"If you embrace not knowing, you open your mind to new
perspectives, new ideas, new possibilities, the potential and the
opportunity that might be present in situations." - Jo
Boniszewski
Listening SUPERPOWER Notes:
00:38 - When she first noticed the power of listening in her work
with leaders
02:32 - Putting aside the inner chatter: First noticing it, taking
one step back, and becoming present.
04:35 - The impact it made on the other person when she put aside
her internal chatter: I would notice a sort of settling, relaxing
and an opening up.
08:25 - Experiencing the discovery of uncharted territories
leading to a connection
15:30 - Surprising moment when the power of listening became clear
to her: becoming aware of your assumptions
22:54 - What is listening to a situation?
27:54 - The result of 'inquiring together': Creative energy was
freed up and work started getting done.
31:47 - What drove her to write her book Thrive in Turbulent Times:
Helping people to meet this turbulence from a place of trust,
calmness, clarity and ease.
33:24 - Five steps to bring calmness and Thrive in Turbulent
Times
40:31 - Listening as a full body and wholehearted experience
41:54 - What it means to embrace 'not knowing'
Key Takeaways:
"If you make a commitment to yourself to do it [five steps to
thrive in turbulent times] for 10 days just notice what the effect
is on your state of being. It's a doorway that you can walk through
to find some more inner calm, inner quiet, and inner focus." - Jo
Boniszewski
"It's important to accept that you're human and not judge yourself. That allows you to be more non-judgmental in your interactions with others which is essential when you want to be curious and open to listen and discover." - Jo Boniszewski
"I view listening as a full body experience that's wholehearted and
whole minded." - Jo Boniszewski
"Embrace not knowing as being important, even an important capacity
to have to be able to listen well." - Jo Boniszewski
"Embracing not knowing helps you to stay in a place of calm." - Jo
Boniszewski
Notes/Mentions:
Thrive in turbulent times: A handbook for living by Jo
Boniszewski:https://joboniszewski.com/
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